WHAT IS SELF LOVE?
SELF LOVE ISN'T JUST ABOUT TAKING BATHS REGULARLY AND DIVING INTO THE OCEAN ON YOUR WEEKENDS... ALTHOUGH THEY ARE GOOD IDEAS!
Self love is a complete regard for yourself and your own well-being. Self love is saying to yourself “I love you enough to be good to you” every single day. Self love is putting yourself first, always and not putting yourself down - which for most of us is our natural go to.
Let me explain a little deeper...
You can work really hard, buy your big house, have great friends, even meet your soul mate? But if you’re still living inside of a mind space that says “I don’t love you enough to eat nourishing foods” or “I don’t love you enough to let you rest when you’re over worked, fatigued and run down” then can you be truly happy?
HOW CAN YOU TRULY LOVE YOUR LIFE IF YOU SPEND MOST OF IT PICKING ON YOURSELF AND BEING HARD ON YOURSELF - GENERALLY ABOUT THINGS A STRANGER WOULDN'T JUDGE YOU FOR?
Probably not. Which is why I see so many of us who seem to ‘have it all’ aren't truly happy or don’t feel good about their life. Despite how amazing it may appear.
This post came about after spending a warm evening by the beach talking to someone about life in general, how as you get older your priorities change and you start to truly learn what actually makes you happy and what doesn't. People struggle to speak to themselves from a place of love, forgive themselves, get still and start living for them. One thing I like which I have found has really helped me along my journey of self-love and self-care is consciously thinking about the things which I am grateful for each day, going out into nature - whether it be getting away for a day or two camping or spending an afternoon down by the beach just sitting and reading.
When your body and soul feel loved, taken care of, appreciated, the mind will soon follow.
It’s like if you had a friend who was constantly helping you out, making you feel comfortable, checking in on you and making you rest when you needed it. You would have NO DOUBT that that friend loved you unconditionally and had your well-being in the forefront of their mind. So that's the idea of doing the little self-care things for yourself, about yourself, remind your mind that you do love and respect yourself enough to put you first. Remind yourself that it's okay to be how you are and that things aren't always your fault.
I am a big culprit of this I tend to blame myself for a lot of things when it's just who I am and my personality, unfortunately sometimes it takes someone else telling you it's okay to be yourself and to stop blaming yourself.
I know it’s tough living from a place of hurt. I know it’s tough to be constantly be listening to put downs inside of your head. I know it’s tough not to feel good enough.
Self love is showing yourself that you do matter, you matter enough to be loved by the one person you will be with for the rest of your life, you.
I know it seems tough, nearly impossible that you could love yourself. But everything starts with a single step.
BUT THINGS WILL AND DO GET BETTER AND EASIER!
Keep on loving yourselves loves x